I was on the phone with my baby earlier and we had a conversation about compromise except all he got from it was that I wanted sex. I tried to point out that compromise was an agreement made between two people but with me and my sex crazed history I guess I couldn’t point out what I really wanted to say. Too many people feel that compromise takes away from who they are as an individual, or is a sign of weakness or makes them appear to be the passive partner in a relationship. Compromise is nothing like that at all unless you make the wrong compromises! What are ‘wrong compromises'? Wrong compromises are where you have you suffered a loss when you compromised with someone. If a compromise makes you feel taken advantage of or wronged then it is not a healthy compromise in any type of relationship. As long as you are not being taken advantage of, a decision made in a relationship to better the relationship is a good one. Often times a compromise is an agreement so that both parties are happy. In any compromise both sides give up something so that they meet in the middle because both sides want to be happy but they give in a little to make the other person happy or to “keep the peace” at home.
Refusing to compromise is a sign of selfishness and a level of immaturity. No one side is ever made happy by getting everything that they want. Even the sun has to share the sky with the moon. No matter how powerful or dominant you are, a balance comes when you can coexist. My grandmother always told me to never say never because you never know what you will or won’t do. Depending on the situation, I can say that I have already done many things that I said I would never do. But I guess I am different. When do you draw the line at compromising? How do know when you have given too much of yourself? Does any one side give up more than the other? These are questions that I thought I knew the answer to but I now see that “change” is truly the only true constant in the world.
Dictionary.com says that compromise is an agreement reached by mutual concession. Mutual is interchangeable with common. Most agreements are made with one common goal of making both parties happy, if happiness is not able to be reached then no agreement is made. What are you willing to give up to ensure someone’s happiness? Do you truly care about the happiness of others? Is selfishness a learned ability? I need answers let me know what you all think.
And this was on the mind of Ivy Thoughts,
If you’re not wearing green, you better be wearing Jade!!!!!!!
